How Young is too Young to Know if You're Gay?

How young is too young to know if you're gay? The simple and honest answer is, there's no such thing as being too young to know. In order to understand, one has to realize that homosexuality isn't primarily about sex and one has to accept that homosexuality is an innate trait with which we are born. I was only about four or five years old when I knew I was attracted to males. My attraction wasn't necessarily sexual, but more along the lines of having crushes on boys and men.

My first memory of being attracted to the same gender was when I was very young, probably about three years of age, when I was more than curious about my father's anatomy. Then as I got a little older (about four or five) , I developed crushes on older neighborhood guys. I found myself gushing over my older sister's male friend, Dale; and, I would become very happy and excited when he was near or even when he would just drive by the house.

When I was in first grade, I had a boyfriend named Scotty. He and I would hold hands and hug and tell everyone that we were going to get married. At that age, I constantly had dreams of Scotty and other males, both younger and older. It was never natural for me to be attracted to the opposite sex.

This attraction had nothing to do with sexual desire, and everything to do with who I was and what was natural for me, and still is today. As an adult, of course, we are sexual beings and sexual desire is part of human life. Naturally my sexual desires and attraction involve adults of the same gender, because of who I am.

This brings me to my point today. I received a "friend request" from a nine year old boy named Quinn, on Youtube. At first I was very concerned that a young boy would request friendship from an older man on the Internet, then as I discovered through reading his profile, that Quinn is a young gay kid; and, his parents control his Youtube on-line account. Quinn produces videos which are very honest and educational, giving a close look inside the life of a young gay child, learning to deal with life. Below is one of his videos which gives amazing insight into how a young child could know if he's gay at that tender age. Remember, it's not about sex.

I have to say, that I identified very closely with what Quinn had to say. There are many parallels in my childhood which I share with Quinn. I found myself nodding my head in agreement with so many things he had to say. It really could have been me in this video many years ago. Take a look into the life of Quinn and you'll soon discover the impressive mental maturity of a young gay boy in 2009.